As I have said many times, divorce is tough. Divorce when children are involved is often even tougher. But regardless of whether children are involved or not — and for some parents this may be tough to hear — the best thing to do when starting the divorce process (and as the process goes through its many stages) is to take care of yourself FIRST. There is an analogy I have seen referred to often in articles and books about divorce that I like to use as well: there is a reason that flight attendants instruct you to put on your oxygen mask before assiting others. The concept is easy to understand: we cannot really help those around us until we are secure first.
As an attorney I have seen this first hand. Often people will be so busy assisting other that they are not focusing on themselves which often hurts in the divorce process. Inevitably the pain or needs that person is putting off will come and that pain or those needs usually comes at the most crucial moment and can cause unnecessary delay and therefore unnecessary cost. You cannot be looking out for your soon to be ex-spouse. While your children are a top priority I can assure you that if you put your needs second you aren’t really doing anything for your children. As hard as it may be, YOU need to be first in the divorce process.
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