Here is something that is obvious to everyone who has every been affected by divorce: Divorce is hard. One of the biggest challenges though comes long after you separate the house, cars, furniture, etc. After that is all done you have to separate your lives. For so long you had been accustomed to another person to lean on or turn to. The realities of a divorce really start setting in when a person goes to turn to that spouse and of course he or she isn’t there.
Sometimes it is easy to fall back into our old roles even after the divorce is finalized. This is dangerous territory; you divorced for a reason. Cooperation is certainly important and healthy, especially when there are children involved, but there is a difference between cooperation and dependency. Make sure you know where to draw the line with your former spouse. Here are a few tips:
• Establish guidelines, in writing if necessary.
• Create truly separate households.
• Build a strong support system outside of your former marriage.
• Recognize when severing emotional ties has become too daunting and get professional help.
Your divorce was hard (and expensive) enough. Avoid more pain and potential costs by learning to draw lines while still working together.
Source: CNN.com
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